Today, I once again came to realize that loyalty means nothing, people’s word is not their honor and they will screw you in an instant if that leads them one step up on the proverbial ladder. Sure we shouldn’t write blogs when we are in the mood I am, but it makes me wonder the lengths people would go for an extra buck. No wonder we are plagued with a world full of corruption. Unfortunately when you do this at the beginning of a project, to what unethical lows would you go?
Most interestingly to me is the total lack of realization on their part that their actions are truly unethical. It is as if there is no moral compass. And even worse they let others do their dirty work for them…This is a doggy eat dog world is it not, and if you cannot ware big pants, maybe you need to get out of the wardrobe? I do hope that those that did me wrong today’s ears are ringing, but what do we do when we are faced with such blatant unethical behavior? Do you vent as I am doing right now?
Well I can tell you, from first-hand experience that venting does not help. It just makes you feel more angry and disillusioned especially when it is people you have known and regarded highly for a long time. So do you pull the sword and confront the person. My parents always taught me to never burn bridges, but as soon as you pull a sword you run the risk of burning that bridge and if you don’t confront them, they will just live in bliss doing to others what they did to you. Alternatively block them out of your life and ignore them. Highly mature is it not….
Ok, so theoretically, and let me stick to that for a moment, you need to know how to deal with conflict situations like this, in order to be a good, principle centred leaders and project managers, and in order to do this, you need to have a few well-grounded principles to stand by. Pulling a sword and confronting somebody is not the same and therefore it is necessary to have your emotions well at bay before you deal with this and to have your facts straight. Dealing with it when you are angry will not do you any favours.
When you are however a Christian, you need to pray for wisdom and strength to deal with this appropriately and then you need to be willing to wait for the right moment and the right answer. No blogs, email messages, whatsapp or sms. Somethings are better done face to face and sometimes it is better to just walk away. Walking away however implies letting it go and letting it go implies forgiving those that did you wrong, even though they might never ask for your forgiveness…and then there is me writing blogs…eish, so still a long way to go.
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