From the heart…

This blog post has been written by a member from our team and truly comes from the heart in true humility and in honor to God. Sometimes it is necessary to not change a thing, but to listen to what comes from within in order to understand the person better. 

After numerous of attempts to write my own blog, I still seem to be failing at the task – just because I am comparing myself to other team member’s skills and educational background knowledge.  “Stop!”  This is a fear of man.

Am I really left with focusing to search what I know and what I’ve learned in a lifetime of 28  years and then combining my experience in the 3 years at The Project Hub?

I’ve learned to be stretched beyond my own views of work and life situations. I’ve learned to deal with defeat and walk through glass walls (ok, I changed route) – making statements and redirect your thought processes. I’ve learned that work and personal relationships can take a strain if your focus is based on self-growth only. And I am still learning. And this blog has been due for a very, very long time.

Just really want to do it for the right reasons and failure or to not even attempt – terrifies me. My team members/life companions have been so kind, so patient.

What are the right reasons you ask? Well, firstly I fear God now, and not man. I am actually typing this blog and not worried about what others may take from it, just because I am in right standing with the Only One that matters.

This was only the result of comparing “I” to Christ. And guess what – I fall short in the work place, in my personal life, in my work ethic, in my punctuality…I fell short in every other part of life and even in interpreting the Scriptures correctly. My heart, my thoughts, my greatest, most brilliant, most pure and biblical intentions…I fell short.

“Uhhh, so you noticed the tense change?” I still fall short and by grace, still going. And I will still fall short tomorrow, but the pressure is off when you truly understand that the Word of God is true and sufficient, it is life and it is the only way. And that is what I will pursue, even by writing a blog for work.

The summary of this equation is in the contentment of this very moment that you might (be saved) or might-not understand (be unsaved), no one can take away from me. Who knew facts can be false, multi-tasking is possible. Just wrote a blog for work and at the same time, a letter to claim the reason for own personal salvation.

Interesting link to follow, for the next time you tackle ANY tasks at work.

Scriptural references you can search for yourself and a link to enjoy the bigger picture follows:

Keeping your eye on the ball

I think conflict is a reality for all project managers, and so often they are faced dealing with the impact or consequence for the decision they make during conflict situations. There are plenty of rules related to dealing with conflict but just because I am a woman, one specifically stands out, and that I need to check myself against is to NOT become emotionally involved.  Objectiveness is one of the big advantages of being a professional and priding yourself in doing the right thing. As soon as we lose objectivity we lose the ability to remove ourselves from the conflict and looking into the real issues. And when we are emotionally involved, we are definitely not objective.

sport_balls-svgI am amazed that conflict so often become personal points of race, gender, the have and don’t haves whilst the real issues are left unchecked and untreated. We debate with so much vigour our rights and justify our actions and we assume people will see the passion we have for the cause, but in reality most people on the outside look into the inner circle of conflict and see stupidity, selfishness and pride.  We miss the point and fight each other, whist we could be working together to address the problem. The win-lose or lose-lose scenario.

Take a team related sport for example. If we act selfishly we reduce the team’s potential by pegging it at an individual’s capability level. When we lose sight of the ball and try to take out our opponents, we get penalised and send to the sin bin and the entire team loses.  Why is it that we understand this so perfectly in a sports environment, but forget this in nearly every other area of our lives? How long will we ignore the real issue in hand and attack those we think oppose us by reverting to a destructive as opposed to upliftment attitude.  Sure we all in conflict and we do not always like the way we are treated, or the way we are being paid, or the way we need to work or…or…or.

Dealing with conflict requires a servant attitude. One where you remove the emotions from the situation, deal with the real issue and try to uplift others in the process.

A lone voice in a busy place

listenThe other day I was really early for a meeting at a well-known and popular business restaurant in town. I took a seat where I could have full view of the door, just in case my client storms in and we miss one another. So by the way, this has happened and we spend like 10 minutes waiting for each other in the same place.  None the less, at some point in time I was just very aware of the noise of business people meeting, guys laughing and cutlery cluttering as people were served their meals. Somewhere in the background a song were playing, barely audible above the noise and I was deeply struck by the words of the song. Who would think that in this busy place I would find this personal moment. This made me think at how many times we encounter a lone voice in a busy place that only some, being well tuned in, would pick up on.

So what does it mean being well tuned in? Well I think it relates to your willingness to listen and that does not only applies to your ability to hear, but the ability to really focus on the message and allowing it to be internalised.  The experts would tell you of all the barriers that is working towards hampering your tune-in-ness, if I can use this term, and honestly there is a lot more working against you than for you when it comes to listening.  

But it is about attitude more than it is about skill. I realised that so often I hear but do not listen, and that is not a reflection on the messenger, the noise or anything other of the many barriers I can blame, but due to my inability to change gears. Sometimes so lost in what I am doing or what I am thinking that I totally lose what was said.  Moving gears from my own world to the world of the person bringing the message helps, but needs to be done consciously and with great speed. AND speed is something I do not have a hurry up is becoming a lot harder the older I get. So many debates between myself and my husband lately on what was said and what was not makes me sometimes wonder if we are indeed living in the same house.

It is therefore with humility that I come to you as project managers today, not as somebody that have mastered the skill, but somebody that failed many times and have seen the consequences of a wrong listening attitude. The importance to recognise the messenger and to focus on what is being said can never be underestimated. Learn to stop working, turn to look the person in the eye and to listen and absorb.